[Read: 12 Prince Charming traits that make every girl swoon] Every girl wants a nice guy.
Ugh, it’s so annoying dealing with a guy who loves to play the “poor me” role in the relationship.
Olly*, a 25-year-old graphic designer, was on the train home after a date with Jen, the 24-year-old media planner he’d met on Tinder a few weeks before. Not even because he wanted to wait another day to play it cool.
It was their first meet-up and there’d been a flirty spark on both sides: the ‘quick drink’ had graduated into dinner, and even in Olly’s last-minute scramble to jump on the train home, he had leaned in for a kiss against the train’s doors. “I saw an opportunity,” he admits, somewhat cowardly.
A manipulator will often play this role when he wants to make you out to be the bad guy so you can feel guilty instead of him.
For example, if you’re angry at how he didn’t text you back about something important, he’ll go to town with an excuse about how terrible his day was so you can feel sorry for him. Sadly, a manipulator will see your kindness as weakness and your ability to give the benefit of the doubt as something that makes you an easy target.