Unfortunately, you’ll never see the signs or the real face under the mask of niceness until you’re ready to end the relationship or have already broken up with him.[Read: How to deal with insecurity in a relationship] That’s the strange power of insecurity and insecure men in a relationship.They can turn what is supposed to be a loving, supporting, and understanding relationship into the “fatal attraction” often described in movies.There are a variety of “bad choices” that may be encountered each week – most of which are easily to identify and avoid.we can't change a guy, but the fact has never stopped many of us ladies from trying.Many women have been socialized to just stick with a guy, work with him while he shamelessly exhibits problematic flaws and just be content to “get chose.”We often tell ourselves that he “has great potential” and we fall in love with who we know the guy can be instead of who we see in front of us in the moment.
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The funniest part of all this is that most women don’t even know they’re actually in a relationship with an insecure man!
Insecure men and their woes Insecure men can come off as one of the most sensitive and nicest men you’ve ever met.
I couldn’t have made it out of my situation without him. Because the abuse was more subtle, it was harder to recognize and left me second-guessing myself continually.
While he was not physically abusive, he raged at me when I questioned his behavior or disagreed with him, called me immature, insecure, or overly sensitive when I reacted to his criticism or judgements of me and was dismissive of my opinions and emotions that were inconvenient to him.